Thursday, 2 December 2010
Towards a Female Led Society - Part Three (More marketing of FLR)
It is a sad irony that there are more male Female Supremacists than there are women who believe in their superiority. Whilst I would dearly like to live in a wholly Matriarchal society, I don't believe it will happen in my lifetime (I'm 49). As I see it there are several barriers to be overcome (not least of which will be the entrenched patriarchal interests and the far less enlightened attitudes in the developing world). Putting those rather large problems to one side for a moment, there are two other factors I would like to focus on:
1) Persuading more women of their superiority and of the fact that it is their right to rule; and
2) Convincing them that once they understand this that there will be a large number of willing men who will support and serve them in this belief.
Given that a Matriarchal world will not happen overnight no matter how much we might want it to, I think we need to take baby steps. I am massively encouraged by the growth and acceptance of FLR (Female Led Relationships). The great thing about FLR as opposed to the Mistress/slave paradigm is that it is far more Female friendly and therefore more accessible to women who would be put off by the "kinky" or "whips and chains" aspects of Femdom which is after all mainly a male fantasy construct. The benefit of FLR is that it is very much Female centred and puts the wants and needs of the woman first, but in a basic everyday setting. This is far more attractive to women.
FLR is also far less threatening to the patriarchy. We are not shouting in their face that women are superior to men (even though they are), we are merely saying that some people like to live their lives with the woman in charge. Women too can see that even in the vanilla world, it is the woman who typically makes the decisions in a household - this is merely formalising that relationship.
FLR is not yet fully accepted. I do however believe that one day I WILL live to see the day where I can quite openly say "Yes, I live in a relationship in which my wife is the head of the household" and the person I am talking to will say "Oh yes - my next door neighbours are in an FLR too".
Promoting FLR goes some way to addressing the two points above. Instead of trying to convince women of their superiority, we only need to say "It's quite normal for you to be in charge in your relationship"; and the fact that there are many men willing to adopt this lifestyle will be self-evident.
Once we start to achieve critical mass, with a significant proportion of relationships being Female Led, then - and I suggest - only then, can we start to move towards a Female Supremacist paradigm.
How we achieve the first step - widening acceptance of FLR - has to be the subject of another debate, but as a suggestion I would like to see some sympathetic editorial in mainstream Ladies' magazines (Cosmo and the like) - without any mention of leather, boots or whips - outlining the benefits to a woman of a Female Led Relationship. "No more housework" "You own the remote" "Sex your way" ... and the like... Any freelance journalists reading this?
To illustrate what I mean I have created an example article. I will publish that here as a separate post in a week or so. If you want a sneak preview you can see it here.