tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31348226141028759572024-03-08T00:26:42.951+00:00Sub MaleA journey into a world of Female Authority and male obedienceSteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-25761508625873571692017-01-01T17:38:00.001+00:002017-01-01T17:38:20.280+00:00Orgasms - They're for Her!One of the things we have been experimenting with in our FLR is enforced chastity.<br />
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During sex I have always tried to be focussed on my Wife's pleasure first and foremost and cunnilingus has always been the focus of our our lovemaking.<br />
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In early 2015 we decided to experiment with enforced chastity and to that end bought a stainless steel cage. For me, this has been transformational. Whilst the device is not foolproof (in the sense that I can still climax when locked - but as I am unable to stroke myself it is, in effect, a ruined orgasm) it has had a wonderful effect on me. I no longer masturbate, and during sex I am constantly reminded that the only orgasm I need concern myself with is my Wife's. What has amazed me is just how true it is that I genuinely derive my pleasure from my Wife's pleasure. When She cums, the pleasure for me is every bit as intense as it is for Her. When we roll over for that glorious post-coital sleep (although I have to wait for a few minutes to come down from the "high") I fall asleep every bit as contented and satisfied as Her - even though I have not orgasmed.<br />
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But it is not just the sex. When I am locked I am locked 24/7. I have no access to the keys whatsoever (when we first started I used to carry an "emergency" key in my wallet - after the first few weeks my Wife took that too). I have to sit down to pee. Whenever I put my hand down there I feel hard steel not soft flesh. Every morning I am awoken by the sensation of my cock straining against the bars of its cage. And each and every one of these things reminds me that I am locked in a cage because my Wife is the Head of the Household, and it is She who decides when I can be released. It is She (and only She) that holds the keys to the lock that imprisons my cock. The lock, to me, symbolises Her authority over me - Her superiority and it makes me very happy to feel the steel of my cage - like a symbol of ownership.<br />
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The cage generally only comes off now when I have to travel (through airport security). This Christmas (for once) we were not travelling and - as you can see from the 2016 calendar - I ended the year locked and I have started 2017 locked. With no trips coming up in the near future I have no idea when I will feel my cock again...<br />
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<br />SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-78916013780330561972017-01-01T15:11:00.000+00:002017-01-01T15:11:11.359+00:00Resurrecting the Blog...Well OK - I know it's been a long time since I last updated this blog. And perhaps resurrection is too strong a word. I am never going to be able to publish with the frequency that I did previously. However, my New Year's resolution is to try harder to promote the cause of Matriarchy, Gynarchy and Female Supremacy and so this blog - whilst not being exactly world-changing may just help in a small way. So I will try to blog occasionally.<br />
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I am someone who, if I have nothing to say - I say nothing. I cannot just spew out postings about nothing in particular. As I have had nothing much to say of late - I have not said much...<br />
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One thing that has been a development in my own FLR has been the introduction of enforced chastity. Indeed, I am locked in a stainless steel cage as I write this. I will therefore make a few posts (starting today) where I will document some of my experiences with enforced chastity.<br />
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In case you are interested, I do post more frequently in my tumblr blog. I continue the theme of FLR, Female Supremacy and Matriarchy in that - albeit in a lighter (more picture-focused) manner. <a href="http://www.tumblr.com/blog/sub-male">Check out my tublr here.</a>SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-18621432473741345032012-02-08T20:02:00.000+00:002012-02-08T20:02:14.328+00:00What's in a Name?Anyone who has made even a cursory reading of these blog pages will understand that it is my belief that Women are the superior sex. There are of course many who do not agree with that opinion - and often voice their view in the comments here - but I am not about to argue the case for Female Superiority in this post, that case has been made to my satisfaction elsewhere. Instead I want to turn my attention to what to call myself.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdZZT_SJ7xFdlqGKNwCu8WSuwWh-St4YaeJMNNbcGnYbiBBXqe_tL4Prvxs1HPuNSlQUZuw7RAO5yg8lgDoCgpki59w0rc5DSv6ehUf-WhBR-EKBZPwu4mTwzo2fxqKSaQ1usK5eZgP-gf/s1600/Female+Symbol.JPG752e04c4-61b4-4106-a04b-641a4d4b5581Larger.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdZZT_SJ7xFdlqGKNwCu8WSuwWh-St4YaeJMNNbcGnYbiBBXqe_tL4Prvxs1HPuNSlQUZuw7RAO5yg8lgDoCgpki59w0rc5DSv6ehUf-WhBR-EKBZPwu4mTwzo2fxqKSaQ1usK5eZgP-gf/s320/Female+Symbol.JPG752e04c4-61b4-4106-a04b-641a4d4b5581Larger.jpg" width="320" /></a>Personally I am happy to call myself a Female Supremacist. After all, I believe that Women are superior to men and that men should devote themselves to the service of their superiors. I believe that Women should have de jure as well as de facto authority over men in our society, so for me at least the term Female Supremacy covers things pretty well.<br />
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However, the term "supremacy" has some unpleasant connotations in some people's minds, conjuring up images of lynchings by white supremacists and genocide by Hitler and countless other dictators. Although I don't think that this should devalue what is in my opinion an accurate description of my belief - Female Supremacy - I recognise that some people are uncomfortable with the term.<br />
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So what else could I call myself? Well I quite like the term "Matriarchy". We have, after all, liven for many decades in a patriarchal society so the term Matriarchal Society is easily understood by all and is far less threatening. What does that make me? As someone who seeks to promote a Matriarchal Society am I a Matriarchalist? or a Matriarchist? Technically the noun is "Matriarch" but I cannot really describe myself as a Matriarch!<br />
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Am I a Feminist? Well that term may well be technically accurate, but even the term Radical Feminist is usually used to describe one who seeks to bring women towards equality with men (but perhaps by the use of radical means), not superiority over them.<br />
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The best term for me - grammatically at least - is Gynarchy. The term is defined as "government or rule by Women" and I can describe myself as a Gynarchist. There are many other useful derivatives of the word - Gynocracy, Gynocentric and Gynarchic which all accurately describe my ideal world or my place in it. The problem with this term is that there is a part of the Gynarchist movement that espouses the view that all men should be castrated and feminised in order to serve their Female superiors. This is not a view I agree with (and not just because I want to hold on to my balls!) because I believe that we should rejoice in the differences between men and Women, accepting the fact that Women are the superior of the two and that we can use our masculine characteristics in the service of our superiors - not try to pretend that we are Women. But that's just my view.<br />
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If we can just agree to stick to the dictionary definition of Gynarchy then I am proud to call myself a Gynarchist!<br />
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Please let me know how Y/you think of Y/yourselves...SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-32952242595521565232010-12-28T18:28:00.003+00:002010-12-28T18:34:36.016+00:00Towards a Female Led Society - Part Four (Going Public)<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFD4hn3kzzElD3HGX4uj9ncRo2HDKhJB_UYmRBwfDG-_C7PTk6wR4WtkgWZyanB_XFLtTf2UGC8RwQDqd6nR5Jp2K9ixj_ITe_0XLPPzeq0D0vL6OlWLIm6pFEkq-YC9NESfQZBh7SBY1p/s1600/pha192000026.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="282" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFD4hn3kzzElD3HGX4uj9ncRo2HDKhJB_UYmRBwfDG-_C7PTk6wR4WtkgWZyanB_XFLtTf2UGC8RwQDqd6nR5Jp2K9ixj_ITe_0XLPPzeq0D0vL6OlWLIm6pFEkq-YC9NESfQZBh7SBY1p/s400/pha192000026.jpg" width="400" /></a>I have been saying for some time now that in order to advance the the cause of Female Supremacy we need to show more women the benefits of a Female Led lifestyle. If more women arrive at this decision for themselves (rather than being, perhaps unwillingly, introduced to it by their husband or boyfriend) then I think we are more likely to achieve some sort of momentum towards the change we want to see.<br />
I have often said that we need some sort of sympathetic coverage in mainstream Ladies' magazines such as Cosmo or Company but it hasn't yet (as far as I know) happened. I decided to write something myself as an <b>example</b> of the sort of thing I mean. Naturally this piece absolutely could not be used. Among its (undoubtedly many) faults there are two main ones that make it totally unsuitable; 1) It is a work of complete fiction; and 2) it is written by a man - me. For this to be a success it must, I suggest, be written by a real woman, from a woman's perspective, and it must be real.<br />
I throw it out here as a suggestion. Anyone got any contacts in the publishing industry? Any freelance journalists out there?<br />
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Feel free to comment or make suggestions.<br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><b>Have Your Cake and Eat it</b></i></span><br />
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by Stephanie Taillo<br />
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Most of us are too young to remember the 1950's, but we all have an impression of that simpler time. Just mentioning the decade conjures up an idyllic image of the hard working husband returning home to his doting wife. The house is spotless, dinner is on the table and she rushes around him to take care of his every need. He takes care of the decisions and she just needs to make sure they happen. She has no money of her own, but manages a budget to ensure the smooth running of the house with the housekeeping money given to her by her husband.<br />
Well perhaps not so idyllic for the little lady. And besides, we like our jobs now. We like the money and the independence. We like the fact that we can have a career. we like the fact that people listen to what we say now. We like to call the shots. The problem is that we still have to do all the other stuff too. Oh sure, we have labour saving devices like washing machines and dishwashers and we have convenience food and takeaways, but somehow life still seems, well... hard work...<br />
The good news ladies, is that we can have our cake and eat it too. We can have the big job and the responsibility. We can call the shots - as a growing number of women are discovering - at home as well as at work. Many women have discovered that there is a growing army of men who are willing to support their wives or girlfriends in their career, not just doing (finally!) their fair share of the chores, but doing <b>all</b> the housework and allowing their wives to make <b>all</b> the decisions. What do they get out of this? Well it seems they just want to make us happy! Some men have always put women on a pedestal. It seems that now they are prepared to clean around it too!<br />
To find out more I spoke to a couple who live just this sort of life. Susan and Steven Rennie (not their real names) have been together for eight years and married for five of those years. I spoke to them at their smart (and clean!) London flat. Steven ushered me in and very politely took my coat and bag. He is a tall, slim, rather good looking man, dressed in chinos and a smart shirt. He seemed charming and relaxed. Susan was in the living room. She had come straight from work and was still in the customary uniform of the successful woman executive - a charcoal grey business suit with black stockings and black pumps. She was strikingly attractive and not what I had expected. She has dark hair, dancing eyes, and a winning smile. When She spoke she had just a trace of an educated Scottish accent. I felt immediately at home. Steve asked me what I would like to drink and within seconds it seemed, returned with my requested gin and tonic, perfect with ice and a slice of fresh lemon, together with a glass of wine which Susan did not request but which he seemed to know she would want, on a silver tray. He did not have one for himself. I was not expecting what happened next. "Thank you Steve" said Susan, "You may have a glass of orange juice if you wish." Steve thanked her and went off to the kitchen. Susan smiled at me and merely said "It's his little treat. I normally only allow him water." I was, unusually for me, struck silent. Susan filled the gap with a question. "Would you like Steve with us for the interview or would you prefer to talk to me alone?" I stammered that I would like to talk to them together and, as Steve sat down with his drink of juice, we started the interview.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>Susan, how would you describe your relationship?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well I believe the term which best describes the nature of our relationship is what's now known as a "Female Led Relationship". There's nothing sinister or odd about it. It's just that Steve and I had come to realise that I was rather better at making decisions and deciding how things should be run, and he was happy for me to take that role.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>How did this come about?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: We had been together for about two years and, I suppose, living together for about a year. We were both working hard at the start of our careers. We met, incidentally, when we were working for the same City consulting firm; but soon afterwards I left to join the Law Firm that I now work for. My career really started to take off and I was so busy at work I asked, or rather told, Steve that he should take on more of the chores at home. I remember being surprised when he not only said he would - without argument - but actually told me not to worry, that he would take care of the chores - all of them - and that he would enjoy doing them for me. At first I was a bit suspicious. I thought it was some sort of trick! But I was just too tired to worry about it. He really did it too. He went from being a "feet up on the sofa watching football while I did all the housework" kind of guy to a "let me do that for you" kind of guy almost overnight. Pretty soon I just accepted it. In fact on occasion when I would try to do some laundry or something Steve would take it off me and make me sit down whilst he took care of it. I was bemused but happy and in fact it didn't take long before I started to expect it. I would find myself asking him why the floor hadn't been washed or some such.<br />
It was also around that time that I got a promotion at work. I found myself in quite a senior position as a young woman in a thrusting law firm. I confessed one night to Steve that I got quite a kick out of telling older men what to do and the fact that I really enjoyed the authority. Steve surprised me once again when he said "How would you like that at home too?"<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>What was your reaction?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well I was flabbergasted. Especially when he explained what he meant. At fist I though he meant all sort of kinky stuff. I was horrified. I mean I know what a dominatrix is, in fact I even dressed as one once when I went to a fancy dress party whilst I was at college, but that wasn't what I was into. Fortunately Steve was at pains to point out that it wasn't what he wanted either and told me about the term "Female Led Relationship". Now you need to remember that the Internet wasn't as advanced back then, but nevertheless I started to google a bit. Again I was lucky. I know that there is a lot of male focussed fantasy stuff out there, but one of the first sites I came across was the "<a href="http://www.she-makes-the-rules.com/">She Makes the Rules</a>" forum. It's run by women and it's very friendly. There's almost no weird kinky stuff there and the other women helped me to understand why my man had come to me and asked me to take authority over him. It saved my life really. I can't put it any stronger than that. It really is a very valuable resource for women just starting out in a FLR. I got myself verified as a "real woman" and that allowed me access to the secret women only forum where the other girls were so helpful. It helped me come on so much that I am now a moderator for SMTR and I am now helping other women myself.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>What did you learn?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well I think the main thing is that no-one can tell you how to "do it right". There is no "right" way to run a Female Led Relationship, it's the way the works for you is the right way, and the only way. On many sites, all too often the men are saying "Oh you must do xyz to him" or "You're not a proper domme unless you do abc." Well that's plainly nonsense. If our relationship is to be led by me, it means I'm in charge and I'll do what I want to do, what suits me, and what is best for OUR relationship.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>So once you'd had time to think about it?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: I suppose I had always been a bit bossy, even as girl, so once the initial shock had passed and once I had had time to absorb what it really meant I began to think that there could be something in this for me. I actually came to enjoy the concept of being in charge completely.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>How did it work out in the early days?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well it wasn't always easy. We are a pretty normal couple. Both strong willed and intelligent, both with experience and points of view, but gradually we adapted to our new roles. I found out how best to use Steve's skills and abilities to our mutual advantage and he learned to trust my judgement.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>Were there any "aha!" moments?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Oh lots! I can remember one time when I wanted to watch a drama on TV. Steve had settled in to watch some football match or other..<br />
<b>Steven</b>: It wasn't just any old match! It was an England World Cup qualifier!<br />
<b>Susan</b>: Yes well to me it was a silly old game of football. Anyway, in those days we only had one TV and I thought I was in for a battle. Truth be told I would have given in and let him watch the match because I really couldn't face the argument; but I just said to him "I want to watch my programme. There's laundry that needs doing. Go and do that..." When Steve got up without a word an handed me the remote control, that's when a lightbulb went on in my head.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>How did things develop from there?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: We settled into our roles I guess. Our home became a very happy place. No stress, no conflict. Things got done. We became closer. About a year or so later we got married.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>What was that like?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Oh it was a really conventional wedding. Typical girly fantasy - big white dress all the trimmings.<br />
<b>Steven</b>: Not totally conventional...<br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well it's true we had a female vicar, but that's no so unusual these days.<br />
<b>Steven</b>: It was then. And what about the vows?<br />
Susan giggled.<br />
<b>Susan</b>: Oh yes! We had the old fashioned traditional vows.<br />
Steven raised his eyebrow meaningfully.<br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well they were! (She smacked him playfully on the thigh. She blushed a little) It's just that we reversed a few of them... Steven promised to "Love, honour and obey" me!<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>What was the reaction to that?</i><br />
<b>Steven</b>: Well I guess the very few close friends who knew the truth were not surprised, most of the rest probably didn't even notice, and those that did probably just though the vicar made a mistake.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>You went a bit further than that though didn't you?</i><br />
<b>Steven</b>: You're referring to our name? (I nodded). Well yes. That was more difficult than I expected. I agreed to take Sue's name rather than the other way around. When a wife takes her husband's name there are a whole raft of things in place to make that happen quite easily. When I wanted to take Sue's name there was a whole load of red-tape, but basically it boiled down to changing my name by Deed Poll.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>But how did that go down with your friends and family?</i><br />
<b>Steven</b>: Well I have to admit I chickened out a bit on that one. I should have said that Sue was the Head of the Household and I was proud to take her name, but in reality I just said that she was an only child, which is true, and the last of a long line of Rennies, which is true, and that we didn't want the name to die out, which was a cop-out but was probably necessary to avoid embarrassment to some of the older members of my family. Most people have just got used to it now and probably don't even remember the time before.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>So Sue, what does being in a FLR mean in practical terms?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well in practical terms it means that when I get up early for that important meeting I know that I am going to have clean knickers, I know that my blouse and skirt will be ironed. I just don't have to worry about those little things. They are only little things, but they can become very big things when they go wrong. It also means that life is just more efficient. In the past, I would usually get my way on a decision (whether it was big or small) but we would usually - at best - debate and - at worst - argue round and round until eventually Steve came to agree with me. Now that whole process is short-circuited. I will ask Steve for his opinion (which can be valuable given his experience and expertise), take it into account and then inform him of my decision. Much quicker.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>Steve, what's in it for you?</i><br />
<b>Steven</b>: Well I love Sue very much. I love to see her so happy and so successful in her career and it gives me great pride to be a support to her.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: And do you really do ALL the housework?<br />
<b>Steven</b>: Yes. Although Sue enjoys cooking so she does that sometimes. Naturally I always clear up. It was hard at first, but now it seems second nature to me. I would feel mortified if I saw Sue doing any cleaning or laundry or ironing. It just wouldn't be right. It's sometimes hard for her too. Occasionally she works from home and I am not usually at home during the day. I have had to insist that she does not clear up after herself as she often put things in the dishwasher herself. She shouldn't have to do that. Now I take a real pride in the fact that her house is clean, that she can be comfortable here, bring friends back without fear of embarrassment.<br />
Besides, I really don't know where the tradition of women doing housework arose. After all, men are generally stronger, so if there's any scrubbing or elbow-grease required then surely it is better for a man to do it than a woman? Also we are more logical. I used to despair when I saw Sue vacuuming. She would be all over the place, miss bits, do some bits three times, and generally take twice a long as I do...<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>OK, I have to ask this. What your sex life like?</i><br />
Susan laughed, but blushed slightly.<br />
<b>Susan</b>: Well I think it's quite normal really.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>No difference between now and the time before you discovered Female Led Relationships?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Not really. We have an active and healthy love life. I guess it's true that Steve is more attentive to my needs now. Steve will say himself that he's not happy unless he thinks he's satisfied me first, and it's true that that's the focus of our our lovemaking these days.<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>OK. Final question. Sue, are you happy in this role? Would you go back to how it was before?</i><br />
<b>Susan</b>: Oh gosh no I would never go back having tasted just how good being in charge can be, and yes, I'm very happy - We're very happy...<br />
<b>Stephanie</b>: <i>Steve?</i><br />
<b>Steven</b>: The fact that Sue is happy is what makes me happy!<br />
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That seemed like a good place to end the interview. In actual fact, since that interview took place I have meet Sue and Steve on many occasions, socially and formally, and even stayed with them more than once, and we have become good friends. I can report without fear of contradiction that they are a happy and well adjusted couple. They have a wide circle of friends and get on well with everybody. Sue seems to be very happy to be in charge and Steve seems very happy to accept her authority. I have never heard them argue, and often it would only take a raised eyebrow from Sue to get Steve to see things her way. In many ways they are a model for the future. The 1950's with a 2010 twist. So ladies... You <b>can</b> have your cake and eat it too! Sign in to <a href="http://www.shemakestherules.com/">shemakestherules.com</a> and find yourself your own Steve and enjoy!<br />
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StephanieSteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-91852668964312481892010-12-02T10:27:00.001+00:002010-12-04T00:12:45.134+00:00Towards a Female Led Society - Part Three (More marketing of FLR)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEin1O0fLmuwsW6TJBHzz82g17u057TX5F3M5li_qK3CzwOx5inFm1ifNGtEX1FNI4ryY_hSKHb99wvm8UoVoUBmBDbdw1x-ONHgV68Yy8NOSg-YXt6SPyMCzNo-otxyAtMIfNO_pRGlzinB/s1600/Doing%252Bher%252Bnails.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEin1O0fLmuwsW6TJBHzz82g17u057TX5F3M5li_qK3CzwOx5inFm1ifNGtEX1FNI4ryY_hSKHb99wvm8UoVoUBmBDbdw1x-ONHgV68Yy8NOSg-YXt6SPyMCzNo-otxyAtMIfNO_pRGlzinB/s320/Doing%252Bher%252Bnails.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>I have long thought that one of the greatest barriers to Female Supremacy is the number of women themselves who see a Matriarchal society as a realistic proposition.<br />
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It is a sad irony that there are more male Female Supremacists than there are women who believe in their superiority. Whilst I would dearly like to live in a wholly Matriarchal society, I don't believe it will happen in my lifetime (I'm 49). As I see it there are several barriers to be overcome (not least of which will be the entrenched patriarchal interests and the far less enlightened attitudes in the developing world). Putting those rather large problems to one side for a moment, there are two other factors I would like to focus on:<br />
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1) Persuading more women of their superiority and of the fact that it is their right to rule; and<br />
2) Convincing them that once they understand this that there will be a large number of willing men who will support and serve them in this belief.<br />
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Given that a Matriarchal world will not happen overnight no matter how much we might want it to, I think we need to take baby steps. I am massively encouraged by the growth and acceptance of FLR (Female Led Relationships). The great thing about FLR as opposed to the Mistress/slave paradigm is that it is far more Female friendly and therefore more accessible to women who would be put off by the "kinky" or "whips and chains" aspects of Femdom which is after all mainly a male fantasy construct. The benefit of FLR is that it is very much Female centred and puts the wants and needs of the woman first, but in a basic everyday setting. This is far more attractive to women.<br />
FLR is also far less threatening to the patriarchy. We are not shouting in their face that women are superior to men (even though they are), we are merely saying that some people like to live their lives with the woman in charge. Women too can see that even in the vanilla world, it is the woman who typically makes the decisions in a household - this is merely formalising that relationship.<br />
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FLR is not yet fully accepted. I do however believe that one day I WILL live to see the day where I can quite openly say "Yes, I live in a relationship in which my wife is the head of the household" and the person I am talking to will say "Oh yes - my next door neighbours are in an FLR too".<br />
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Promoting FLR goes some way to addressing the two points above. Instead of trying to convince women of their superiority, we only need to say "It's quite normal for you to be in charge in your relationship"; and the fact that there are many men willing to adopt this lifestyle will be self-evident.<br />
Once we start to achieve critical mass, with a significant proportion of relationships being Female Led, then - and I suggest - only then, can we start to move towards a Female Supremacist paradigm.<br />
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How we achieve the first step - widening acceptance of FLR - has to be the subject of another debate, but as a suggestion I would like to see some sympathetic editorial in mainstream Ladies' magazines (Cosmo and the like) - without any mention of leather, boots or whips - outlining the benefits to a woman of a Female Led Relationship. "No more housework" "You own the remote" "Sex your way" ... and the like... Any freelance journalists reading this?<br />
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Thoughts anyone?<br />
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p.s.<br />
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To illustrate what I mean I have created an example article. I will publish that here as a separate post in a week or so. If you want a sneak preview you can see it <a href="http://fetlife.com/users/488139/posts/463830">here</a>.SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-1247053256676996812010-11-14T19:23:00.005+00:002010-11-16T20:10:23.742+00:00Female Led Communities<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>Well first of all I'd like to apologise to all for being away for so long. I'd also like to thank all those people who sent me public or private messages of support. The truth is I'm just not very good at this blogging lark. I need to feel inspired to write. In order to try to find inspiration I have been cruising the Female Supremacy forums of <a href="http://www.fetlife.com/">FetLife</a> and, in case anyone's interested, I have started a thread <a href="http://fetlife.com/groups/156/group_posts/919537">here</a>.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX8bpoboNDbzJtV-L7utF1J47XwFygBxwdWiHtUbTtY4E7itx3cRgnCoV5OxZan4KMOphr8mXh5WkinrumRVK90rTrSgSodUbC_S4iOxXOXgScc5y23ZlTajU7tYLvt-Udnf-Arr2Aw2XP/s1600/mother-earth.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX8bpoboNDbzJtV-L7utF1J47XwFygBxwdWiHtUbTtY4E7itx3cRgnCoV5OxZan4KMOphr8mXh5WkinrumRVK90rTrSgSodUbC_S4iOxXOXgScc5y23ZlTajU7tYLvt-Udnf-Arr2Aw2XP/s320/mother-earth.jpg" width="245" /></a>The main thrust of my thesis is that in order to bring about a Female Superior Society at the "macro" level, we first need to develop awareness and understanding of the benefits (particularly to women) at the relationship or small community (if you like - the "micro") level.<br />
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The good news is that Female Led Relationships *are* becoming more widespread, and the rise of excellent sites such as She Makes the Rules and At Her Feet are testament to that. What I would like to focus on in this post however is an initiative to build small communities based upon the Female Superior philosophy. There are not many that I know of currently in existence.<br />
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There is <a href="http://www.matriarchlifestyle.com/">Mother Goddess Earth</a>, which is mainly farming focussed but is based upon strong Matriarchal principles and is deserving of our support. Another the ranch run by Dianna Vesta, though this is a largely private affair; and a third is <a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/GoddessManor%20">Goddess Manor</a> run by the sublime Lady Femina which is commercial in nature, but definitely Female centric. All of these are worthy Female Led communities.<br />
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There is also of course the (sadly now defunct) OWK or Other World Kingdom. I had mixed feelings about the existence of the OWK. It is of course a male fantasy theme park, and with it's focus on male fantasy kink is likely to put off many women just starting to explore their dominance. It was nevertheless based upon a firm Female Superior philosophy and run very much as a "Queendom" and of course, as a man, I could not deny that I would have loved a "holiday / vacation" there.<br />
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I would like however to look at a couple of Female Superior communities that are not yet in existence but will, I hope, soon become a reality. The first of these is "Vision Plantation" planned by <a href="http://fetlife.com/users/146140">MizzLeeza</a>. She has concrete plans for a one year trial in a suburban setting in Northern VA, followed by the finding of a rural farmhouse with some land to make Vision Plantation, based strongly on the tenets of Female Superiority, become reality. This is certainly a project that I would like to see come to fruition and, with a strong lead from MizzLeeza, it looks like it may...<br />
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The other project worthy of consideration is <a href="http://www.femalesrule.com/">Femquility</a>. I first came across this project some time ago and was impressed then. It is described as "A peaceful EcoVillage / Cohousing Community for those interested in loving Female Led Relationships" with a strap-line of "Honouring Nature and Women".<br />
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The really great thing (amongst the many great things) about this project is the fact that it is first and foremost a community, a community built on strong Matriarchal principles and very much focussed on the Female. It makes no concession to male fantasy or kink - which is as it should be. <br />
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Femquility is a truly ambitious, but very important, project and is the result of the vision and drive of the remarkable <a href="http://fetlife.com/users/30414">Ms Lisa</a>. It is well thought-out and has a very professional website which I encourage everyone to visit. The plan is for a small community of around 33 homes plus some communal areas where like-minded couples can set up home in entirely Female Ruled community. It would be governed by the "Wise Women Council". The structure of the community is admirable and based on a strong Female Supremacy philosophy. I quote from the website:<br />
<blockquote>"Most community decisions are made by consensus in the Wise Women Council. Every woman in the community is the head of her household and is on the Wise Women Council. Therefore community decisions by the council represent the consensus of all the households. Each gentleman can freely discuss issues with the woman of the household he lives in. But the final decision of each household is up to each woman."</blockquote><br />
The only problem with this project is that it suffers from a "chicken and egg" difficulty. It does not yet exist. If it did, I suspect there would be many people looking to join it. Unfortunately, until enough people commit to the "vision" it cannot become a reality. This is a shame. I suspect most of us reading this blog would like to live there. As I said to Ms Lisa, if I won the lottery I would be there like a shot. Unfortunately, as a business plan "Step 4 - Win the Lottery" does not usually work with bank managers...<br />
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Nevertheless I encourage everyone reading this to support this excellent project. Visit the website, join the <a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/afemdomecovillage">Yahoo Group</a>. Ms Lisa is in particular looking for more like-minded Women to join and help drive the project, but anyone can get involved. Spread the word. If you have website or blog put details of Femquility on it (check with Ms Lisa first); if you have suggestions for a location or know of some available land please let Ms Lisa know; put your name in the database in the database on the Yahoo group (afemdomecovillage) and just generally try to help. There could be a meeting to discuss the next steps sometime in 2011.<br />
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As these sorts of Female Led communities develop, grow and become common we are moving, one step at a time, towards our goal.<br />
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If anyone knows of any other active or planned community based on Female Supremacy principles please do let me know...SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-51602723167544002002010-09-26T14:42:00.000+01:002010-09-26T14:42:28.235+01:00My Blog is Not DeadHello to all,<br />
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Several people have now enquired as to whether or not I am still actively maintaining this blog. The answer is that I am indeed - and I am hearing you loud and clear. I am afraid however that I am very busy at the moment (in fact I'm out of the country at the moment writing this on a public hotel computer - no wireless here!). Also - as I mentioned to the redoubtable Ms Saharah Eve - I need to feel inspired to write. I am in awe of those bloggers who can write every day. If I tried that, you would all have to hear what I had for breakfast!<br />
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I will answer some of the recent posts and perhaps come up with a new entry soon I hope. Thank you for reading.SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-84928246002407566602009-12-05T21:42:00.001+00:002009-12-06T12:01:28.862+00:00Towards a Female Led Society - Part Two (The marketing of FLR)In my last article I asked how we could progress to a Female-led society. I have no real answers, but some suggestions and, I'm afraid, yet more questions.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVZjyn3knl8zO1gILg41pUVJk42LqcSKkU8jfZxcFxq1oyq-PJ7C3tGZHZwxTRq5EPDNcmXsFIz_KGPy3kfGkObb9RFLjulRxFxOaNEiEo3SRa4yftogGFFejqS05NX9gVmXcsDFdkVCHH/s1600-h/washing.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVZjyn3knl8zO1gILg41pUVJk42LqcSKkU8jfZxcFxq1oyq-PJ7C3tGZHZwxTRq5EPDNcmXsFIz_KGPy3kfGkObb9RFLjulRxFxOaNEiEo3SRa4yftogGFFejqS05NX9gVmXcsDFdkVCHH/s320/washing.jpg" /></a>One of the correspondents (Bob) to this site (and, by the way, I am always grateful for feedback, opinions, suggestions and support!) made the very perceptive comment that in fact many more households are female-led than perhaps we think; with wives making decisions, controlling the finances and sharing the services of their menfolk (<a href="https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3134822614102875957&postID=6212052231847251322">read his comments here</a>, <a href="https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=3134822614102875957&postID=4145621756239164597" style="color: magenta;">and here</a>). Whilst this is undoubtedly true, were you to question either member of such a marriage if they consider themselves to be living in a female-led relationship or in a female supremacist marriage I suspect that either party, male or female, would probably laugh and deny it. They make make some joke, intended to be ironic, about “she's the boss” or some such – but it would be intended to convey humour.<br />
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So why would such couples deny the reality of the situation? Why not acknowledge the fact that the wife is the head of the household? Other than societal conditioning and patriarchal peer pressure, once again I have no real answer.<br />
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Another question. Given the unquestioned rise of women in western society, and given the communication revolution that has been wrought by the Internet, why is is still the case that there are more men seeking a female-led relationship than there are women? It is often said that there are around 10 submissive men for every dominant woman. I have no empirical evidence to support that number, but as I write today the (albeit very unscientific) poll on this blog has around 11:1 men:women responses. Now this is perhaps unsurprising in a blog of this nature – I'm pleasantly surprised that any women at all would read this – but few sites, even the redoubtable “She Makes the Rules” site, have a much better ratio.<br />
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On the face of it this disparity seems strange. Women the world over complain that their men don't do enough around the house, that they are not valued, and that men don't do as they are told; and yet there are thousands of men who want to live in the service of their wives. What woman would not want to to live in a household where her word was law, where housework – all housework – was a man's job, and where she is worshipped as a Goddess or treated as a queen? The answer to this question is complex. In part it is because few women have been brought up to expect this position, and in part it is because women can function in an environment based upon equality, in a way that men cannot, and often strive for equality in a relationship when actually they would be better to assert their natural superiority. <br />
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I need to explain that statement. Both William Bond (a prolific writer and Female Supremacist) and Ms Blanche Black (an intelligent and thoughtful proponent of Matriarchy) make much the same points; they argue that <br />
<blockquote><i>“[women] are far better communicators and can discuss among themselves what needs to be done, with far less conflict and so can work together without a leader”,</i><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><sup>1</sup></span><br />
</blockquote>and so strive for equality. Men on the other hand are essentially competitive pack animals who look to become the pack leader, but who will show obedience to recognised authority such as with military hierarchies or sports coaches. As Ms Black says: <br />
<blockquote>“<i>...the men of our culture publicly show reverence and submission all the time. They show reverence for and unquestioning submission to rituals of national unity, fraternal rights of passage, military superiors, and athletic coaches. They show emotional abandon and devotion towards sports teams, sports cars, and successful male role models. In plain sight, men who our society recognizes as masculine are submissive with certain people, and in certain contexts. They know that public submission and deference to others doesn't make them weak-willed, because society recognizes the ability of men to be submissive in certain relationships while remaining competitive and assertive in others. As long as their submission is aimed at men and male traditional values, no one has a problem with it.</i>”<span style="font-size: xx-small;"><sup>2</sup></span><br />
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It can be said therefore that men need authority and discipline, women on the other hand are more capable of seeing the bigger picture and are able to function in a consensus-driven environment.<br />
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What we need to do therefore is to demonstrate to women that men function better when given structure and clear leadership and that women, given their greater powers of perception and clear thinking, are better suited to providing that leadership. If it is clear to a man who is the leader of the pack he will follow that leader without question. It should be clear from this therefore that women should co-operate with one-another, but should take the leadership role with men. Aiming for equality will not work. Men respect leaders, and are happier when it is clear who that is.<br />
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So how can we persuade more women of the undoubted benefits of a FLR? I think that part of the problem lies in the image of female domination. Most women, I suspect, are aware of the fantasy figure of the leather-clad, thigh-booted, whip-wielding dominatrix and most regard it as frankly ridiculous. It is of course a male fantasy. Some women might happily embrace the image as a bit of fun or as a temporary game to spice up a saucy night of passion (usually to please their partner), but few would consider it as a realistic proposition as a lifestyle. And herein lies the problem; we need a better marketing department. We need to get the message out that FLR is not the same thing as pandering to a slightly ridiculous sexual fantasy, it is a framework for a happy and successful relationship which benefits both partners. <br />
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There are positive signs. Amongst the wealth of fantasy sites, there are more and more now which are focussed not on fetish and kink, but on the woman's wants and needs. The redoubtable She Makes the Rules site is a leader in this field, but there are many more. To find them however, you need to be looking. Few women, I suspect, go looking on the internet for Female-Led resources unless they have been prompted to do so (usually by a husband or boyfriend). What we need is some mainstream publicity. One idea that I would like to see might be an article in a leading women's magazine like Cosmopolitan or Company with a sympathetic author prepared to point out the myriad benefits to both male and female of a female-led relationship without any sniggering innuendo. That, together with a realistic landing pad (such as the SMTR site) where prospective women leaders would not be put off by leery fantasists could provide the catalyst to far more women embracing the lifestyle themselves or appreciating and encouraging it in others. That is only one suggestion. But there are still problems...Who could write such an article? (It would have to be written by a woman, from a woman's point of view) and how could we get it published in such a mainstream publication? Anyone know any journalists / publishers? Any other ideas? Do please add your comments.<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;"><sup>1</sup></span> William Bond <a href="http://femalefriendlyfemdom.blogspot.com/2009/05/why-men-are-submissive-sex.html">Why Men Are The Submissive Sex</a><br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;"><sup>2</sup></span> Ms Blanche Black <a href="http://blancheblack.blogspot.com/2009/06/chivalry-is-not-dead.html">Chivalry is Not Dead</a><br />
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By the way - do please read other posts by the above authors.<br />
<a href="http://blancheblack.blogspot.com/">Ms Blanche Black</a><br />
<a href="http://femalefriendlyfemdom.blogspot.com/">William Bond</a>SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-41456217562391645972009-11-01T21:03:00.001+00:002009-11-03T17:16:23.605+00:00Towards a Female Led Society?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVG6Pbo_vtZ_FvzgIePAC6LCkn-wlvjJKc8KPAPq3TdY_qxDvnJsC153wdz_6yQ3BRxCHVIEuSzoyGu7-_CTYlGRtp2QA30ri70MDU5VRzALk7irwqp8E2VZyu89D50RWbIjUw1h0h_SWW/s1600-h/ManCleanFloor.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVG6Pbo_vtZ_FvzgIePAC6LCkn-wlvjJKc8KPAPq3TdY_qxDvnJsC153wdz_6yQ3BRxCHVIEuSzoyGu7-_CTYlGRtp2QA30ri70MDU5VRzALk7irwqp8E2VZyu89D50RWbIjUw1h0h_SWW/s320/ManCleanFloor.jpg" /></a><br />
</div>If you click on links, you can hop from blog to blog, website to website and forum to forum and it is entirely possible to immerse oneself in totally Female Led world. Indeed, even avoiding the more lurid whip-cracking, thigh-booted pro-dominatrix sites (not that I have anything against them) one can find a wealth of well-written intelligent and thoughtful accounts of good people living a Female Led lifestyle; descriptions of marriages and relationships where the woman is the undisputed head of the household; tales of female authority and male obedience and numerous articles proposing the benefits of Female Supremacy. These are almost universally positive and laud the advantages, for both male and female, of a Female Led Relationship (FLR) or Female Led Society. Having spend a happy afternoon in this pursuit, you could be forgiven therefore for thinking that we are truly on our way towards a world ruled by women.<br />
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One only has to step outside one's front door however, to discover that we are not there yet...<br />
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Downtrodden and put-upon women are everywhere, women and girls are to be found mooning over unsuitable and inconsiderate men, and chauvinism is still alive and tolerated, if no longer actively condoned.<br />
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I would like to live in a Female Led world. Do I think I will ever see that day come? Not in my lifetime (I am in my late forties). Where do I think we are now and what sort of world would I like to see? Let me address the second part of that question first. I think that there are two models of society that are relevant here: the first is what might be termed the pre-Victorian era where women were not allowed to vote, not allowed to own property, were considered to be an adjunct to (or in some cases the property of) her husband who was assumed to be the unquestioned head of the household. This to me, with the roles reversed naturally, would be the ideal goal. I can't see this society coming about in any realistic time-frame however - if ever. The second model of society is what is sometimes referred to as the "1950s Household". My previous post (<a href="http://sub-male.blogspot.com/2009/11/perfect-world.html">A Perfect World</a>) typifies this. In this society the woman had her own life, but was seen very much in a supporting role to her husband who was of course the authority in the household. This type of society would, I believe, provide a very acceptable lifestyle to those of us in this community - again, naturally providing it is the wife in authority and the husband in the supporting role.<br />
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How close are we to this? Well, given what I said above about the difference between desire and reality, still not very close. If I said to a neighbour that I lived in an FLR I doubt that he or she would know what I meant. Even if they did, they might consider it at best a bit strange, and at worst perverted. I think that we as a community are where the gay community were in the early 60s. Homosexuality is now no longer illegal (I'm referring to the UK here), but few gay couples would openly declare their relationship for fear of ridicule, discrimination, persecution or worse. Now, some 4 decades on, whilst some gays still reside in the closet, most of us know of at least one gay couple living openly and happily as such. There are of course a few intolerant dissenters, but most people would take a "live and let live" attitude even if not entirely comfortable with homosexuality themselves. I would like to be able to say to someone "I live in a Female Led Relationship where my wife is the authority in the household" and for him or her to say something like "Oh yes, there's another couple in my street who live like that - nice people...."<br />
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Perhaps that's something I might see in my lifetime...<br />
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How to get there? That's the subject of another post.SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-9233463434882965532009-11-01T18:42:00.002+00:002009-11-01T18:44:14.745+00:00A Perfect World?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxS_uZPErtFdWo_utNrcjXqX1hfGgucb3e_MMxt2h1unVgEs1SrcXW7d3am9DXkeGGNBecHkkbOsMNNN9BHyNCCmyD1q9Ap3iZv5Yq7o6R9Vx8Upx2f-XEhD7OG0APIbCcoYulGx2D3IQg/s1600-h/GOODHOUSEKEEPING.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxS_uZPErtFdWo_utNrcjXqX1hfGgucb3e_MMxt2h1unVgEs1SrcXW7d3am9DXkeGGNBecHkkbOsMNNN9BHyNCCmyD1q9Ap3iZv5Yq7o6R9Vx8Upx2f-XEhD7OG0APIbCcoYulGx2D3IQg/s640/GOODHOUSEKEEPING.jpg" /></a><br />
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Many of you will have seen this already. This is a genuine article from the 1950's publication "Housekeeping Monthly". I think this is a very good description of an ideal relationship and is as true today as it was then - just one teensey weeney little alteration is required to make this applicable to our modern society - I think that should be obvious to anyone reading this blog!<br />
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(If you click on the picture it will be a little more readable)SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-62120522318472513222009-10-11T10:27:00.003+01:002009-10-11T11:19:03.199+01:00The Beta MaleI live in London and every week I take The Sunday Times. For those outside the UK, The Sunday Times is a highly respected "quality" broadsheet. One Sunday back in the autumn of 2007 I actually read this article by <b>Kate Mulvey</b>. I practically choked on my cornflakes...<br />
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<b><a href="http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article2602592.ece">What modern women want: a beta male</a></b><br />
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I recently stumbled across it again on the web the other day so I thought I would post about it here in order to bring it to a wider readership than just the UK.<br />
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</div>I thought it extremely important that this article should get such mainstream exposure. At the time I thought it could have been the beginning of a seismic shift towards a Female Led society. Sadly I have have seen nothing of its like since and I have heard little more from its authoress.<br />
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The article is not overtly FLR but its subtitle is: "<i><b>Men are surrendering in the sex war, taking on the supporting role</b></i>" and its subtext is clearly FLR.<br />
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I encourage everyone to read it. Unfortunately you can no longer post comments. There is however a "<i><b>recommended</b></i>" button which you can click (just below Ms Mulvey's picture) and doing so will increment its score which may bring it to the editor's attention. If you agree with Ms Mulvey's thesis - and I suspect most of us here do - please click on this button to show your support.<br />
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At the time there were quite a few negative comments, largely from men, but sadly from some women too and I believe that it is incumbent upon us to get behind a commentator such as Ms Mulvey when she is brave enough to stick her head above the parapet and foretell the future in this way.<br />
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You can find the link to the article above, or here:<br />
<a href="http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article2602592.ece">http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article2602592.ece</a><br />
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Do have a look - and let me know what you think and whether or not you voted for the article...SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-29157542780434635012009-08-28T14:26:00.008+01:002009-08-28T14:56:33.958+01:00The Power of Women - From a Ms Blanche Black blog<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhREh_HhBZXQ3qhdFX6Ih9T61bCaF-vEG80zfNJuctBWMTpc_3fxSEXXJ2mUmGPaEmO5wgAapz0OBF9VAYOScYup-jjVhFp0_hFYqTY38M-_aX4acUKnDVAo0tdrZMDQG_sv6qY29CFWH6/s1600-h/gse_multipart47052.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 144px; height: 139px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhREh_HhBZXQ3qhdFX6Ih9T61bCaF-vEG80zfNJuctBWMTpc_3fxSEXXJ2mUmGPaEmO5wgAapz0OBF9VAYOScYup-jjVhFp0_hFYqTY38M-_aX4acUKnDVAo0tdrZMDQG_sv6qY29CFWH6/s320/gse_multipart47052.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5375009904319705394" border="0" /></a><br />I followed a link today from another blog and stumbled into an Aladdin's cave of sublime written gems.<br /><br />Ms Blanche Black <a href="http://blancheblack.blogspot.com/">in her superb blog</a> writes beautifully about <span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">"</span><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Female leadership of men in relationships and society through female assertiveness, boundary setting, male discipline, and matriarchy" </span><br /><br />This should be required reading for all - women and men alike - and Ms Black is clearly a visionary woman of the future. Women like this are in the vanguard in our journey towards a Female Led Society and all of us should do all we can to support and encourage them.<br /><br />Go on over to her blog and be prepared to be blown away as I was by the quality of her insight as well as the quality of her prose.<br /><br />If I may, I would just like to quote one piece (of the many) that caught my eye. From her article <a href="http://blancheblack.blogspot.com/2007/07/being-woman-in-western-society.html"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Being a Woman in Western Society</span></a>:<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">"Physically, women are powerful to the same degree as men, or more so, through their inherent sensual beauty compared to men. Women’s sensual allure has a more pervasive influence on people than male physical aggression does, because it evokes men’s pleasure and instinctive allegiance towards the woman they encounter, simply by sight. It hypnotizes them, basically. It is a more subtle form of power than violence, and encourages social and political pacifism. The subtlety of women’s physical power makes it all the more powerful for lack of anticipation by others, and carries a lot less guilt than intimidation."</span><br /><br />Beautiful - just beautiful. And so true!SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-30204278548968951472009-08-25T14:06:00.003+01:002009-10-04T14:21:44.362+01:00More Thoughts on Female Supremacy<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUKsb7xhOWhVDMwAVnuhfiLQjUkEU0YItgrYizSWAauPNe_bbixPXOrmwXHEzQtoutYoA8f4cssfaWMLFHckqfUQymitd3t7rppSf9pItSDCc_yfLzBH-wZCTwO-a3yySUPxcbTD9VYAS2/s1600-h/wifeworship.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5373891246181331954" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUKsb7xhOWhVDMwAVnuhfiLQjUkEU0YItgrYizSWAauPNe_bbixPXOrmwXHEzQtoutYoA8f4cssfaWMLFHckqfUQymitd3t7rppSf9pItSDCc_yfLzBH-wZCTwO-a3yySUPxcbTD9VYAS2/s320/wifeworship.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 320px; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 284px;" /></a><br />
OK - So I'm not exactly the most prolific blogger in the blogosphere, but if any of my thoughts have generated interest of note it would have to be <a href="http://sub-male.blogspot.com/2008/03/my-thoughts-on-female-supremacy.html">the article on Female Supremacy</a>. I am going to take this opportunity to expand upon that article a little.<br />
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I think it's important to be grown-up about this. More men believe in the concept of Female Supremacy than women, but for many of those men it is a masturbatory fantasy in which whip-wielding goddesses rule the world and we men are kept in cages and brought out for their amusement and sexual pleasure... Well OK - but that world isn't going to happen any time soon - or ever...<br />
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If we are to bring about a world that I suspect most people reading this blog would like to see; a world which is Female led, a world in which political and commercial leaders are largely women, a world in which Female Led relationships are the norm and where husbands promise to "love honour and obey", where housework is "men's work" - then we need to ensure that the term Female Supremacy is understood.<br />
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The problem is that even those women (and some men) that share the above vision would not describe themselves as Female Supremacists. I think that the reasons for this are complex, but have a great deal deal to do with the unpleasant historical connotations of the term as I mentioned in my previous post. If we are to reclaim the term so that more women are comfortable with it and are happy to describe themselves as the Superior Sex then we must clarify what Female Supremacy really means. Now I would be interested to hear from others what it means to them, but this is what it means to me...<br />
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Does it mean to me that ALL women are superior to ALL men?<br />
No. As I pointed out in my last post on the subject that would clearly be ludicrous.<br />
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Does it mean that in a Female Led Relationship the woman is superior to her husband in every way?<br />
No. Although I accept my wife as my leader, even she would accept that there are some things I am better at than her. Her skill lies in using that to her advantage. I am a far better driver than my wife, but as she says - why does she need to drive? - she has me to drive her...<br />
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So as I said before, what I mean is that "on average" women are superior to men, and superior in most respects (the ones that matter). So whilst not all women are superior to all men, in general, for every man there is a woman who is his better and whom he should be proud to serve.<br />
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And what of the reality of Female Supremacy? Well you can find a multitude of views and counter-views but the evidence is clear; girls are outperforming boys in schools and women are outperforming men in the workplace so the movement is underway. The change is slight however and whether or not we will achieve a truly matriarchal society in my lifetime is remains to be seen.<br />
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It is encouraging to see however that more and more women ARE declaring themselves to be Female Supremacists and, rather than being pilloried or ridiculed, are being praised and sought-out for their views as beacons for the future. Women such as Elise Sutton, Diana Vesta, Paige Harrison, Barbara Wright Abernathy and of course the beautiful and redoubtable <a href="http://saharaheve.com/">Ms Saharah Eve</a> (formerly known as Mistress Dolly) are all much in demand for their forward thinking views on the nature of a Female Led society.<br />
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There are other positive signs too. One Sunday morning late in 2007 I was delighted to find in my morning paper - The Sunday Times (a quality British broadsheet) <a href="http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article2602592.ece?Submitted=true">this article</a> by Kate Mulvey in which she argues that men are beginning to accept the fact that they need to support their more successful female partners. I encourage everyone to read the article (and by the way - click on the "recommended" icon to move it up a few more notches...). Without wishing to spoil your enjoyment of her excellent article I will just reproduce here the final paragraph:<br />
"Having grown up with successful women such as Margaret Thatcher and Madonna as role models, and with popular culture awash with fantasies of all-powerful women, from Lara Croft to Buffy the Vampire Slayer, men are not so uncomfortable with the woman in control. This value system recognises the trend of female supremacy, which while not as yet the norm seems to be pointing the way for future relationships."<br />
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Naturally she says it better than I could possibly do!SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-57771610820874131792009-02-20T10:44:00.003+00:002009-02-22T10:52:34.678+00:00A New JourneyYesterday was Thursday 19 February. A relatively unremarkable day - except for me.<br /><br />In the early part of the New Year, when all the newspapers were full of stuff about New Year's resolutions, we came across an item in The Sunday Times in which the author described how he and his wife, following the birth of their baby had - for entirely understandable reasons - fallen out of the habit of sex. To counter this they had resolved, the previous year, to have sex every day for a year. This was a remarkably touch challenge actually and the author detailed their battle which (he claims at least) they won.<br /><br />We face similar everyday challenges; children, busy lives, both working etc. and it's probably fair to say that we don't make as much time for sex as we should.<br /><br />Last night, Thursday 19 February, out of the blue, my wife announced that we do a similar thing - with a twist as befits a FLR couple. We are going to attempt to have sex every day for a month. Naturally, in our case, I don't get to cum until the last day...<br /><br />She had a lovely orgasm last night. One down...<br /><br />Wish me luck!SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-46934639984257249622009-02-19T17:48:00.003+00:002009-02-19T18:41:00.421+00:00My Strange FantasyWell it's not that strange actually - not in the FD world anyway, but it seems to be consuming my thoughts at the moment.<br /><br />Although my wife and I don't (yet) use a lockable chastity device, she does decide whether or not I get to orgasm during sex. Naturally, the primary purpose of sex is her orgasm and I try to achieve a ratio of around 30:1 in terms of her ogasms to mine. Some might argue that this is harsh, others that she is overly generous. All I can say is that it it about right for us (although I think that as befits a Female Led relationship we should move towards a higher number - say 50:1).<br /><br />During sex I wear a cock ring to try to prevent accidental orgasms (if she is reclining whilst I perform my oral service my cock often rubs against the bed and this is sometimes too much stimulation!).<br /><br />As I said, I am not locked up; and in truth I quite like the sensation of a rock-solid erection whilst knowing that the only orgasm will be my wife's...<br /><br />So here's the fantasy - A surgically implanted device that doesn't interfere with normal erections, but that makes ejaculation and orgasm quite impossible. There would be a remote control device allowing orgasms "on" or "off" which, naturally, only my wife would have access to. In fact, in the more detailed of these fantasies it is controlled by a fingerprint scanner, meaning that the "key" can even be left lying around for me to see - completely unable to activate...<br /><br />In the meantime I would of course become a human dildo! Unable to orgasm, but able to satisfy my wife with my cock as well as my tongue - until she has had enough!<br /><br />Now that's a gadget I would pay for (and probably she would too)!SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-21869779345925881412009-02-18T14:08:00.008+00:002009-10-04T14:52:25.203+01:00Mistress Dolly<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiliYOJ9mKbrA9oXW1jUpipSJs-E_Oc1Y7jPPU5Ic-bdK3ygAVNz4YEeQcGYhyphenhyphenZtmibwswqLuyjclw8kbQJxBkBtEpK2XRYyrS3vJP_TZbrx07UgDk92miNF76U-_7Dhzj0FccJrBbdZNbb/s1600-h/female_supremacy.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5304140649004214754" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiliYOJ9mKbrA9oXW1jUpipSJs-E_Oc1Y7jPPU5Ic-bdK3ygAVNz4YEeQcGYhyphenhyphenZtmibwswqLuyjclw8kbQJxBkBtEpK2XRYyrS3vJP_TZbrx07UgDk92miNF76U-_7Dhzj0FccJrBbdZNbb/s320/female_supremacy.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 256px; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 320px;" /></a><br />
I have just become aware of a new (to me anyway) and powerful force in the Female Supremacist movement. She is the redoubtable and undeniably beautiful Mistress Dolly.<br />
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She is an ardent believer in the superiority of the Female sex and lives that life.<br />
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She and one of Her slaves have posted comments here in response to my article on Female Supremacy. Whilst I do not agree entirely with all aspects of Her philosophy, I think (as can be seen from my article) that there is common ground between us. Without wishing to paraphrase Ms Dolly I think it is fair to say that She believes all Women to be inherently superior to all men. My view, only slightly different, is that <span style="font-style: italic;">in general</span> Women are superior to men.<br />
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To read more <a href="http://saharaheve.com/">hop over to Her website.</a><a href="http://saharaheve.com/"><br />
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One interesting aspect about this powerful Woman is that She runs Her own production company devoted to promoting the interests of dominant Women. I wish Her well in all Her ventures.<br />
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All I can say is; fortunate indeed is the man lucky enough to serve Her!<br />
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Mistress Dolly now prefers to be known by her proper name of <a href="http://saharaheve.com/"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Ms Saharah Eve</span></a>.<br />
[/Edit]SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com20tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-12031226431779388852008-05-30T22:08:00.002+01:002008-05-30T22:14:40.660+01:00Corporal PunishmentI wrote this post over on the She Makes The Rules forum. I think it is something I might develop here so I am going to reproduce it here. If you are interested in seeing the whole thread <a href="http://www.she-makes-the-rules.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=5&func=view&id=1182&catid=56&limit=6&limitstart=0">take a look</a><b> </b>(you will have to sign up as a member first if you are not already one).<b><br /><br /><br />Anne In Charge wrote:</b><br /><blockquote>QUOTE:<br />Is it punishment if you enjoy it?<br /></blockquote><br /><br />Well this is one of the big paradoxes in FLR.<br /><br />To me, and I would like to stress that this is only my opinion, this ties in quite closely with another thread on the board at the moment that of wanting <a href="http://www.she-makes-the-rules.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=5&func=view&id=1018&catid=64#1018">acknowledgement</a> of the FLR.<br /><br />Do I enjoy pain? No! If I slam my fingers in the door it hurts! I am most certainly not a masochist.<br />Would I like my wife to use her cane on me beyond the point at which it might be considered a pleasurable sensation - to the point where it HURTS? Yes!<br /><br />Why would I want that when I've already said that I don't like pain?<br /><br />Because, for me, this is a clear demonstration of her authority in our relationship. It is an acknowledgement of a power exchange. In a partnership of equals no one person could "punish" the other as to have the right to administer a punishment there has to be an unequal relationship where one party has authority over the other. If you walk into a court of law, you are not of equal status to the judge. He or she has the authority to determine and administer punishment.<br /><br />So, to my way of thinking at least, craving punishment is not necessarily craving "kink" per se, but craving a demonstration of authority, an acceptance of an unequal relationship where our wives are in a position of authority over us...<br /><br />Now, whether or not our wives chose to provide that demonstration of authority is of course a different matter.<br /><br />Just my thoughts...<br /><br />Steve TSteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-26935296568255010992008-05-22T19:29:00.006+01:002008-05-22T20:17:19.840+01:00Superb new FLR resource!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTroZgq_qld4NwF36sW_t1ez1fi6rJh5BBlxfW-PnH-FUjfiek9MusCw0H42vzPVQl70LURKz1Tpfn5ko7T1u3BxcTKYjVH0vQpqhxF9pQsk1mQG879ZZBVM-ZttuXlt66kJVvUPKzRYcS/s1600-h/header.png"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTroZgq_qld4NwF36sW_t1ez1fi6rJh5BBlxfW-PnH-FUjfiek9MusCw0H42vzPVQl70LURKz1Tpfn5ko7T1u3BxcTKYjVH0vQpqhxF9pQsk1mQG879ZZBVM-ZttuXlt66kJVvUPKzRYcS/s320/header.png" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5203272332372273426" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br />In addition to the wonderful FLR board, another website and forum dedicated to Female Led Relationships has been born. Inspired by Barbara Wright Abernathy's "Venus on Top" the site and forum has been created by two of Ms Abernathy's associates QueenBee Debbie and Ms Anne.<br /><br />The site is called <a href="http://www.she-makes-the-rules.com/">SHE MAKE THE RULES</a> - Women Leading The Way.<br /><br />Sign up and further the cause of powerful Women and the men that serve them...SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-85738366777269349592008-04-07T08:43:00.003+01:002008-04-07T09:22:25.500+01:00The Demise of My FavouritesIt occurred to me only today that, during my long absence from this blog, the two blogs that were the inspiration for this one have ceased to be; and that I have made no reference to that event in this blog.<br /><br />I intend to put right that oversight now...<br /><br />It was not long after I started this blog that I realised that both Ms Becky and Ms Barbara's blogs (which were respectively Female-Supremacy and Oral-Worship) were hacked and destroyed.<br /><br />This was the cause of much sadness and despair in the FLR community, not helped by the fact that Blogspot (both were Blogspot blogs) seemed unable, or unwilling, to do anything about it.<br /><br />Neither Woman has restarted (as far as I know) a similar blog, which is a great shame. Ms Barbara does have a Yahoo group (<a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/forcedcunnilingus01/">Forced Cunnilingus</a>) but it somehow lacks the power and immediacy of the blog. Their presence in the blogsphere is greatly missed (certainly by me!). If anyone does know of any other web-related activity by either of these Ladies please do let me know.<br /><br />Another of my favourites was the FLR board run by Ms Aradia. This was a fabulous resource and a real community (and I don't use that word lightly) of like-minded people. It had a very large membership and thousands of posts. It really felt as if the FLR lifestyle was gaining traction and would soon become commonplace in today's society.<br /><br />Sadly, for reasons that I still don't fully understand, Ms Aradia decided to pull the plug on the board. It was Her board and, as She is a Woman, I have to abide by and respect Her decision. Nevertheless I do miss it greatly. She has a blog (<a href="http://dark-forays.blogspot.com/">Into the Dark</a>) but it's not the same thing...<br /><br />Fortunately one of the members of the old FLR board has started a replacement. Ms SuePrise has taken on the mantle and we now have the <a href="http://flr.yuku.com/">Female Led Relationships</a> yuku board. It has many of the same members and is a promising replacement for the old board. As of writing it has only around 100 members at the moment and has thus not yet reached critical mass in my opinion. So do drop by, join, and lend your support...<br /><br />We need more blogs and forums like these - particularly those run my Women. We need to show the world, and especially the Women of the world, that it is perfectly normal for a Woman to be in charge and in fact a very large number of men want just that...SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-22006057432563405522008-04-05T11:57:00.003+01:002008-05-30T22:16:55.960+01:00Common Courtesy<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/3837507/2/istockphoto_3837507_raleigh_meets_queen.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px;" src="http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/3837507/2/istockphoto_3837507_raleigh_meets_queen.jpg" alt="" border="0" /></a><br />A little while ago I was parking my car in the underground car park of a major department store in my town. I was a little frustrated as I had to wait for a middle-aged woman to park her large car and get out of my way.<br /><br />As I waited for the lift to take me to the ground level this same lady approached me. There were other people around – even some some officials of the department store – yet she chose to speak to me (I had come from work and was in a suit so I probably looked reasonably approachable).<br /><br />She asked me very nicely if I could tell her how to get to a particular bank in the town. I started to try to explain, but it was not easy to give unambiguous directions. At that moment the lift arrived, so I simply said - “Look – I'll show you”.<br /><br />We made polite small talk as I walked her out of the lift, through the store and out into the town. I then walked with her the short distance until the bank in question was in sight.<br /><br />The lady thanked me profusely and told me I was a “gentleman”. Well I like to think that I am a gentleman but I started to ask myself about my motivation for this small act. I have stated before that I think that Women should be served and obeyed by men, but was this act the servile obeisance of a submissive man towards a dominant Woman, or was it rather, an act of common courtesy of one stranger to another?<br /><br />Would I have done the same for a man? The answer is almost certainly not, though I don't think the situation would have arisen had the stranger been a man. For one thing a man would have bee less likely to ask – certainly not before actually getting into the town – and secondly I would have felt it easier to give directions to a man somehow.<br /><br />Common courtesy, chivalry or subservience?SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-6540855475800393242008-03-31T11:41:00.004+01:002009-08-28T14:51:31.410+01:00My thoughts on Female Supremacy<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtoE0pKBhv1kwMeb3dPSWk7cLLZfAX4TkH4nGQRh2HHtDQDkFq3YGz25-iIYuhGmklqJYjbrEi2QJLnjtndmSDoLn1eJRUjcqRnztpe6k7-gCo-7zVToYrJfgw6fpT6v782DDALDxeO5le/s1600-h/54.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtoE0pKBhv1kwMeb3dPSWk7cLLZfAX4TkH4nGQRh2HHtDQDkFq3YGz25-iIYuhGmklqJYjbrEi2QJLnjtndmSDoLn1eJRUjcqRnztpe6k7-gCo-7zVToYrJfgw6fpT6v782DDALDxeO5le/s320/54.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5183856759498307778" border="0" /></a><br />I am proud to say that I am a Female Supremacist.<br /><p></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Now that's a scary term and many people shy away from it. The folks on the truly excellent <a href="http://flr.yuku.com/">FLR Forum</a> (Female Led Relationships) often try to distance themselves from those people who believe in Female Supremacy and I can understand why. The word “supremacist” has connotations of Nazism, Klu Klux Clan cross burning and Fascist fanatics.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I would like to try to reclaim the term from the extremists however. Allow me to explain how I view Female Supremacy.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I suppose I really believe in “qualified” Female Supremacy. Do I believe that Women are superior to men?<br />Yes.<br /><br />Do I believe that all Women are superior to all men?<br />No.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I am a well educated and successful man. I travel up to London on the tube (London's subway system for those otherwise unfamiliar with London) every day. Occasionally I will put down my paper and look around the crowded railway carriage. Naturally, as a man, my attention is usually drawn to the Female occupants of the train. I find myself looking at the Ladies I see and asking myself “could I obey and serve this woman?” Often, as I look at some slack-jawed gum-chewing, scruffily dressed Woman reading Hello Magazine or some trashy novel, the answer is NO!</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I know that one should never judge by appearances, but frankly it's sometimes impossible not to. I can just tell that the lady in question is not from the same background as me and, whilst I don't want to add a charge of elitism to my already long list of faults, I think that in general relationships between men and Women are founded on a basis of chemistry and shared background, experience and beliefs. I would clearly have nothing in common with some of these Women. Would I be polite and respectful if I had to interact with such a Women? Yes of course. All Women deserve respect. Would I agree to become Her permanent slave (even if was available to)? No.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Serving a Woman on a permanent basis is something that I think all men should do. To me it seems natural, right and proper; but finding the right Woman to serve is in my opinion no different to finding a mate in any other form of relationship.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">So although I am happily married and in a FLR, If I wasn't already in service to a beautiful and intelligent Lady that is exactly who I would need to find – a Woman of similar or superior intellect to me – and of course there are a great many of those around – just not <b>every</b> Woman.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">For every man out there there is a superior Woman. It's just a matter of matching them up appropriately. So not all Women are superior to all men, but on balance Women are superior to men and should be served, obeyed and worshipped accordingly.</p>SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com34tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-26438732464978738022008-03-30T15:43:00.002+01:002008-03-30T15:46:07.048+01:00Back AgainWell OK...<br /><br />I know it's been a loooong time since I last posted, but real life has a habit of interfering with the idealised one we live in here on the Interweb.<br /><br />I have some ideas for posting and I will be back shortly...SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-33190497932547888812007-01-31T05:52:00.000+00:002007-01-31T06:13:17.788+00:00An Addiction?There is a debate going on over at the wonderful <a href="http://oral-worship.blogspot.com/">Ms Barbara's site</a> concerning toilet service. If this is a matter that offends you please stop reading now for that is what I am going to talk about.<br /><br />My wife has been away on business for a week and I have found myself craving (and I mean <span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">craving) </span><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>her Golden Wine. Now, unfortunately for me She recognises the fact that toilet service is a great pleasure for me and uses it as a reward rather than requires it as a service.<br /><br />She is under great pressure at work at the moment and I'm afraid I have not been as supportive as I should have been; so even though She is back now, my <span style="font-style: italic;">craving</span> has still not been satisfied.<br /><br />The craving has still not gone away, and it's clearly not just contact with Her lovely pussy that I need - we've had sex (me satisfying Her orally naturally) - and my waking moments are still consumed with thoughts of me consuming Her Golden Nectar.<br /><br />Is it possible I'm addicted?<br /><br />Has anyone else suffered from this addition?<br /><br />Is there a Urinaholics Anonymous?<br /><br /><br />Do write and let me know your thoughts...SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134822614102875957.post-78711814011657546622007-01-17T19:19:00.000+00:002007-01-17T22:40:23.099+00:00In Appreciation of the Dominant WomanI have created this blog to celebrate the increasing awareness amongst women that there is a place for them as the rightful head of the <span onclick="BLOG_clickHandler(this)" class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">household</span>.<br /><br />It still saddens me somewhat to see that the proportion of submissive men posting on the Internet far outweighs the number of women declaring themselves to be dominant or the head of a female led relationship. This may of course in part be because women are, like my own wife, not naturally drawn towards this sort of technology, preferring to spend their time on more sensible pursuits.<br /><br />However, as my first post I wish to draw your attention to what I consider to be two of the best blogs by dominant women not just here on <span onclick="BLOG_clickHandler(this)" class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Blogspot</span>, but anywhere on the Internet today. They are:<span class="down" style="display: block;" id="formatbar_CreateLink" title="Link" onmouseover="ButtonHoverOn(this);" onmouseout="ButtonHoverOff(this);" onmouseup="" onmousedown="CheckFormatting(event);FormatbarButton('richeditorframe', this, 8);ButtonMouseDown(this);"></span><br /><a href="http://www.oral-worship.blogspot.com/">Oral-Worship</a>;<br /> and<span class="" style="display: block;" id="formatbar_CreateLink" title="Link" onmouseover="ButtonHoverOn(this);" onmouseout="ButtonHoverOff(this);" onmouseup="" onmousedown="CheckFormatting(event);FormatbarButton('richeditorframe', this, 8);ButtonMouseDown(this);"></span><a href="http://www.female-supremacy.blogspot.com/">Female-Supremacy</a><br /><br />Drop by and give them your support. We need women like this who clearly enjoy their dominance and are prepared to share their pleasure in that supremacy. By doing so they are leading other women to <span onclick="BLOG_clickHandler(this)" class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">recognise</span> the opportunity to take their rightful position as head of the household.<br /><br />To show my appreciation for these two wonderful figureheads of the Female-led movement (neither of whom I have any relationship with - by the way) I have created this blog with the same Blog theme as theirs.<br /><br />I will try to write more in due course - but in the meantime if anyone has any comments to make about this or any other Female Dominant aspect of our live please do feel free to post...<br /><br />All the best...<br /><br />Steve <span onclick="BLOG_clickHandler(this)" class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Taillo</span>SteveThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02239573203718763188noreply@blogger.com3